First of all,
I'd like to say that this is not a handbook or a standard rule that is valid for every case scenario.
No, this is something based on personal experience (not that I've made this happen, but it exists and it's real), and of course we can't leave aside the innumerous books and movies. Because even though we might use that old sentence "This won't happen in real life. Life is not a movie or a book that ends up everything happy and perfectly fine.", those books and movies are a base to something we aspire for, and wanting or not, in there, in those pages and picture frames, there's a little bit of truth.
Second of all,
Be true to yourself. Yes, there's nothing more that will work well in a relationship than honesty and truthfulness. Sometimes, we are so very afraid to express our feelings because we are afraid of a broken heart. But guess what? We, human beings have an incredible power to rebuild. Granted that some are weaker and may crumble, but we cannot live in fear of what might not be.
Which gets us to the
Third of all,
Enjoy E-V-E-R-Y little moment. Like our fears tells us, there might not be a tomorrow. But don't just enjoy it because of that. Enjoy it because that's the true meaning of being alive. Of course not only the NOW matters, but if you think about it, the memories you cherish they are all composed by these unique moments that made you so happy, or so sad. But that brought you here. With things to cry about, but also things that you might catch yourself with a silly smile plastered on your face.
Imagine what it would be without those moments...
Now, we really get to those tips. Because IF, and only IF you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to get those two last things done. And why, you might ask?
How can someone love you, when you don't even love yourself? Yes, of course someone can do that. But don't you think it would be a lot more intense if you were already happy by yourself in the first place? When I say back there in the 'second of all' that honesty works well in a relationship I mean any relationship.
Tip number one.
1- Smile. No, don't force it dear. There's got to be a true smile. That heart blooming smile that brightens your face. Because if he can make you smile like that, and your heart flutters in you chest. Then yes, he deserves that smile.
Tip number two.
2- Appreciate the little things between your two.If by any chance the two of you get to be apart, whether is on a weekend that he went away, or because you've got too much work on your hands, you'll notice that it's the little things you'll miss the most. And so will he. The jokes, the laughters, the caress of your hands through his hair, the line of his jaw... And so it goes.
Tip number two.
3- Give him affection. Affection is key in any relationship. We women might think that guys are made of steel and might not have feelings like we women do. That they get hurt less if something ends. Well... That's a lie. They are just better in not getting attached too much. When you are with your guy make sure to tell him just how much your care for them. Not with words, but with gestures.
How can I do that? Easy. Words, they go to waste so easily these days, carried out by the wind. And if you think well, the gestures people do for you, in most situations, is what counts the most. Well, at least for me. So with a kiss make sure to pass on what you feel for him. In a tight hug, or in a sweet caress... Or even on those spicey moments a little bit of nibbling and cajoling is always good.
Tip number four.
4- Avoid fights. More talk less shouting. You know what works good in a relationship? Conversation. Dialog. If you have fears, if you have insecurities. Tell him. Not in the sense of blaming him, but opnely telling him how you feel. You will know his point of you and you'll have a mutual understanding of things. And yes, be open. Don't be too impusilve, sometimes in a talk there might be ambiguous things and even if it seems exaustingm if there's a doubt clarify it. And talk to other people about it too though, a guy those need to know everything. Other people might get advice on your paranoid fears.
Nothing makes a guy fall hard than an uncomplicated girl. And by that I don't mean that you are senseless and have no critic sense. No, that might make your relationship quite boring. But if those conversations come up, it usually means that something is stirring up and things need to be talked about and fixed, or clarified. So get on with it.
Tip number 5.
5- Be memorable. How? Make him remember you. You know those little jokes you do, the little things you say. Those little acts of kindness and affection towards him. All of those things will make him see you for who you are. Those little things, your memories, his memories of you. When you are apart, he'll think of them thinking of you.
And those are the tips. And, please, I think it's not necessary to say that you need to polish your look a little bit, don't go around looking like a hobo. Just because the guy IS with you doesn't mean that you should be careless. Falling in love is an every day thing. Either we want it or not. We constantly change our way of thinking and so can or feelings change.
Remember that movie, '50 First Dates'? That's exactly what our heart is about. We don't need to have lost our short term memory. We just need to be reminded on a daily basis why we're here. And why we do what we do. And why we love who we love. It's completly normal.
And
P.S.: Don't follow these rules.
In the end there are no rules to make a guy fall in love with you. You might do all that and he still might not love you. Just get that 'second of all' and 'third of all' done and you'll be a better person for yourself.
I'd like to say that this is not a handbook or a standard rule that is valid for every case scenario.
No, this is something based on personal experience (not that I've made this happen, but it exists and it's real), and of course we can't leave aside the innumerous books and movies. Because even though we might use that old sentence "This won't happen in real life. Life is not a movie or a book that ends up everything happy and perfectly fine.", those books and movies are a base to something we aspire for, and wanting or not, in there, in those pages and picture frames, there's a little bit of truth.
Second of all,
Be true to yourself. Yes, there's nothing more that will work well in a relationship than honesty and truthfulness. Sometimes, we are so very afraid to express our feelings because we are afraid of a broken heart. But guess what? We, human beings have an incredible power to rebuild. Granted that some are weaker and may crumble, but we cannot live in fear of what might not be.
Which gets us to the
Third of all,
Enjoy E-V-E-R-Y little moment. Like our fears tells us, there might not be a tomorrow. But don't just enjoy it because of that. Enjoy it because that's the true meaning of being alive. Of course not only the NOW matters, but if you think about it, the memories you cherish they are all composed by these unique moments that made you so happy, or so sad. But that brought you here. With things to cry about, but also things that you might catch yourself with a silly smile plastered on your face.
Imagine what it would be without those moments...
Now, we really get to those tips. Because IF, and only IF you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to get those two last things done. And why, you might ask?
How can someone love you, when you don't even love yourself? Yes, of course someone can do that. But don't you think it would be a lot more intense if you were already happy by yourself in the first place? When I say back there in the 'second of all' that honesty works well in a relationship I mean any relationship.
Tip number one.
1- Smile. No, don't force it dear. There's got to be a true smile. That heart blooming smile that brightens your face. Because if he can make you smile like that, and your heart flutters in you chest. Then yes, he deserves that smile.
Tip number two.
2- Appreciate the little things between your two.If by any chance the two of you get to be apart, whether is on a weekend that he went away, or because you've got too much work on your hands, you'll notice that it's the little things you'll miss the most. And so will he. The jokes, the laughters, the caress of your hands through his hair, the line of his jaw... And so it goes.
Tip number two.
3- Give him affection. Affection is key in any relationship. We women might think that guys are made of steel and might not have feelings like we women do. That they get hurt less if something ends. Well... That's a lie. They are just better in not getting attached too much. When you are with your guy make sure to tell him just how much your care for them. Not with words, but with gestures.
How can I do that? Easy. Words, they go to waste so easily these days, carried out by the wind. And if you think well, the gestures people do for you, in most situations, is what counts the most. Well, at least for me. So with a kiss make sure to pass on what you feel for him. In a tight hug, or in a sweet caress... Or even on those spicey moments a little bit of nibbling and cajoling is always good.
Tip number four.
4- Avoid fights. More talk less shouting. You know what works good in a relationship? Conversation. Dialog. If you have fears, if you have insecurities. Tell him. Not in the sense of blaming him, but opnely telling him how you feel. You will know his point of you and you'll have a mutual understanding of things. And yes, be open. Don't be too impusilve, sometimes in a talk there might be ambiguous things and even if it seems exaustingm if there's a doubt clarify it. And talk to other people about it too though, a guy those need to know everything. Other people might get advice on your paranoid fears.
Nothing makes a guy fall hard than an uncomplicated girl. And by that I don't mean that you are senseless and have no critic sense. No, that might make your relationship quite boring. But if those conversations come up, it usually means that something is stirring up and things need to be talked about and fixed, or clarified. So get on with it.
Tip number 5.
5- Be memorable. How? Make him remember you. You know those little jokes you do, the little things you say. Those little acts of kindness and affection towards him. All of those things will make him see you for who you are. Those little things, your memories, his memories of you. When you are apart, he'll think of them thinking of you.
And those are the tips. And, please, I think it's not necessary to say that you need to polish your look a little bit, don't go around looking like a hobo. Just because the guy IS with you doesn't mean that you should be careless. Falling in love is an every day thing. Either we want it or not. We constantly change our way of thinking and so can or feelings change.
Remember that movie, '50 First Dates'? That's exactly what our heart is about. We don't need to have lost our short term memory. We just need to be reminded on a daily basis why we're here. And why we do what we do. And why we love who we love. It's completly normal.
And
P.S.: Don't follow these rules.
In the end there are no rules to make a guy fall in love with you. You might do all that and he still might not love you. Just get that 'second of all' and 'third of all' done and you'll be a better person for yourself.
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